It was the fifties, I was a twin, the youngest of three children, and a girl. Maybe it was the decade, or the fact I grew up in a small oil town, or that Daddy worked 24 hours a day and Mom was exhausted with keeping up with very hyper twin girls (we did tend to get into mischief) but, I don’t recall having any meaningful conversations about growing up, what to expect, how to prepare, education, possibilities, dating, sex, having children, etc. Unfortunately, my first child suffered the most from my ignorance. By the time I was pregnant with my second child, I realized I had a lot to learn!. It is said that babies don’t come with user manuals, but, in my search for helpful and knowledgeable information, I found if you ask questions, and look in the right places, you can learn most of what you need to know. Once I realized children do not automatically know about life, Mom, Daddy, my Mother-In-Law and Father-Law, Grandparents, friends, teachers, my doctor, and the library all became great resources for information. One of the biggest lessons I learned was to talk to my child about what she could be and how important education is. I started the day she was born. I also talked to her about growing up, finding the right man, having children, being independent, and thinking for herself. I am very proud of both my children and who they have become. However, the growing up process would have been much easier for my first child had I understood the importance of talking about what to expect and what was expected of him.

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